You are trying to just live, to just be yourself. Or you are attempting to make positive, but challenging changes in your life. Yet, the people that seem to give you the hardest time and the harshest criticism are your own family members. Why?
I know that families exist in many different forms in the Ireland of today. Varied, diverse and often complex family systems evolve in order to support and cope with the demands of modern day living. Both parents may be involved in the rearing of a child, one parent or neither. Grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, neighbours and friends often play vital roles in a child’s support and development.
Whoever you may see as your own family of origin, as individuals we all desire to strike the balance between what we really want to do with our lives and our sense of duty to our family. However, we may feel that this sense of duty is often constrictive, unhelpful and sometimes even punitive.
Why is it often the case that when we are with our siblings, we seem to behave like we are kids again – but not always in a healthy way? If our parents love us then why do they sometimes say the most hurtful things to us? Do you find it challenging at times to successfully communicate with your own child?