Indecision, Ambivalence and Anxiety – 3 common experiences on our path towards making change
We are all familiar with the search for decision. Major life-span decisions are required of us in areas such as our education, our relationships, perhaps in family planning and around our health and lifestyle. Countless smaller daily decisions are required almost incessantly. We make many decisions almost automatically without much deliberation or consequence, but others may leave us feeling ‘stuck’, a feeling that may perhaps stay with us for years.
We are not alone in our ambivalence; this is a theme which affects us all.
The coming of another spring and summer can often shine a light into the hidden corners of our lives. It can remind us of tasks not yet achieved, personal dilemmas not yet resolved nor goals not yet explored nor perhaps even considered. The sun may lull our procrastinating selves towards pushing even further away some much needed change and decision onto that most elongated of digits – proverbially known as the ‘long finger’.
But yet time ticks on, days into weeks, into months, into seasons, into years and into lifetimes. Many of us carry a grief and sadness when we contemplate what we feel is ‘lost time’ because we know deep down that we would feel so much better if we could just take some of the steps towards making the changes we want to experience in our lives.
However, we may simply not feel ready for change nor for making a particular decision. ‘Readiness to change’ is all too often overlooked with many people placing the focus on the actual change itself or the desired goal and not necessarily on themselves and their confidence levels in relation to achieving the change.
How availing of ecotherapy and ecopsychology can help us with making change
Nature is the very essence of change – everything in nature is constantly changing. Ubiquitous and exceptional examples of change are being modelled by the natural world in plain sight; we just have to look a little more carefully.
Nature is regulated by the seasons and it’s becoming increasingly more common that many humans are feeling ‘out of synch’ with the natural rhythms of the earth. For some, the sun shining high in the summer sky might remind them of the breakneck speed of which time and indeed their lives seem to be flying by. If the change we desire in our lives seems ‘unachievable’ or the decision we are contemplating seems too challenging, we are often very likely to repress it or confine it to our dreams.
Sadly, for many of us, our demanding and busy existence is so often swamped in a sea of technology and consumerism. This busyness ensures that we have become quite separated for unhealthy periods from the natural world. Is it any wonder we might forget our natural abilities in relation to the concept of change?
Clients who have availed of counselling psychotherapy outdoors with Walk Inniú generally comment on how ‘safe and encouraged’ they feel in relation to the natural therapeutic space. They seem to experience it as a ‘fluid, evolving and unfolding space’ making it much more likely to be a ‘space and place where change happens’ in comparison to the more ‘static’ traditional indoor setting.
At ‘Walk Inniú’, giving yourself a ‘green prescription’ through participation in our outdoor ecotherapy ‘walk and talk’ groups, means that you create more space to explore your relationship with ‘other than human’ nature and it may surprise you what you could learn about yourself. By exploring your ‘eco – psychological dynamic’ through an interactive ecotherapy workshop, you can learn how to resource yourself more and regulate your mood and energies, thus ensuring change and decision making becomes much more likely.
Ecotherapy Hedge School
David provides ecotherapy group workshops customised for your group or organisation’s needs and requirements. Each workshop includes an introduction to ecotherapy and ecopsychology, digital detox, walk and talk and re-wilding exercises.
Please contact David to find out about the customised group options available.